“May you have warmth in your igloo, oil in your lamp, and peace in your heart!”
Inuit proverb
The holidays are upon us.
A time of needed relaxation and increasingly time with the people closest to us.
A time of stress and worries. A time of not all the joy you may have hoped for or been promised by upbeat razzmatazz and movies.
It can be a time of mixed feelings.
So today I would like to share 5 powerful and timeless tips that can help you to make the holidays – and 2024 too – a increasingly joyful and peaceful time.
1. Slow down.
“For fast-acting relief, try slowing down.”
Lily Tomlin
First, slow down. Even if it may finger silly and if you have to gravity it a bit. Slow lanugo your body, move and walk slowly.
Breathe slower and increasingly tightly with your vitals (and focus on doing just that for two minutes and see what happens).
Slow lanugo your eating (this will not only help you to relax, it will moreover help you to not eat too much during the holidays since it takes well-nigh 20 minutes for your smart-ass to register that you are full).
Slow it all lanugo and pay sustentation to what you are doing.
Be here now and focus on doing just one thing at a time.
By slowing down, by stuff here now, by not having your focus split between many things you – your soul and your mind – start to relax.
2. Fathom the little things instead of focusing on perfection.
“Nobody can be uncheered with a balloon.”
Winnie the Pooh
Daily happiness is to a large part well-nigh appreciating the small things.
If you just indulge yourself to be happy when implementation a big goal or when everything lines up just perfectly then you are making life harder than it needs to be.
Instead, focus on appreciating things that you may take for granted.
Take two minutes and find things in your life you can fathom now.
If you want a handful of suggestions, here are a few of the things that I like to fathom virtually the holidays:
- All the tasty food.
- My health.
- My family and friends.
- That I have a roof and a warm home as the snow is falling and the unprepossessed winds are blowing.
- The trappy wintery landscapes.
3. Requite a bit of joy to someone else.
“Since you get increasingly joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are worldly-wise to give.”
Eleanor Roosevelt
This may sound like an empty cliche but it surely works. One of the weightier ways to wilt happier is simply to make others happier.
When you make someone else happy you can sense, see, finger and hear it. And that happy feeling flows when to you.
And since the Law of Reciprocity is strong there is flipside upside. People will finger like giving when to you.
Or like paying it forward to someone else.
And so the two (or more) of you alimony towers an upward screw of for example positivity, of helping out, of cheering up and of lending a listening ear and support.
4. Focus on what is most valuable.
“You can never get unbearable of what you don’t need to make you happy.”
Eric Hoffer
“Joy is not in things; it is in us.”
Benjamin Franklin
Instead of focusing on a lot of things focus on what is most important and valuable to you.
If you still have Christmas gifts to buy then instead of giving yonder a lot of expensive stuff it may be largest to requite one thing that the person you are giving it to will truly appreciate.
Or maybe you could skip giving a physical thing altogether. And instead requite yonder an wits that will wilt a special day and cherished memory for him or her or for the two of you.
However you segregate to go well-nigh things over the holidays make it YOUR choices as weightier you can and not a tuft of shoulds that mostly make you finger deflated.
5. Just winnow how you finger right now.
“We cannot transpiration anything until we winnow it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses.”
Carl Jung
Maybe you try some of the tips above.
And they still can't help you to shake that negativity, worries or stress you are delivering around. I would then suggest that you just winnow that the feeling is there.
Tell yourself: This is how I finger right now and I winnow it.
This might sound counter-intuitive and like you are giving up.
However, by unsuspicious how you finger instead of resisting it you reduce the emotional energy that you are feeding into this mismatch or problem.
And it then tends to lose speed like a car that runs out of fuel.
Sometimes the problem or mismatch will then wilt so weak that it just moves out of your mind.
By unsuspicious what is you have now freed up energy and your sustentation so your mind can wilt increasingly level-headed, unshut and constructive once again.
And you can see increasingly unmistakably and take focused whoopee towards a solution.